The DaddiesBoySquare journal

This is where we write about the things men on both sides of the age gap actually ask about. What "daddy" really means, and why the word gets used so many different ways. How sugar arrangements work when they work, and how to spot the fakes when they don't. Why so many gay couples have ten, twenty or thirty years between them, and what helps those relationships last. How to start dating again at fifty, or how to get through a first date with a man old enough to remember the first Pride march.

Everything here is written for adults who are curious, attracted to someone from another generation, or simply trying to make sense of a part of gay culture that's often joked about and rarely explained properly. We don't do clickbait, and we don't pretend age-gap dating needs a diagnosis. We write the way we'd talk to a friend over a drink: honestly, with a sense of humour, and with real information you can use.

The journal is organised into three sections. Daddy Culture covers the words, the tribes, the history and the dynamics: daddies, bears, cubs, silver foxes, the daddy/boy relationship and the myths around them. Sugar & Generosity is our practical corner for anyone interested in a generous older partner, or in being one: how to find each other, how to write a profile that gets noticed, and how to stay safe. Age-Gap Love is about relationships across the years: why they happen, why younger men are drawn to older ones and the other way round, where older gay men can be found today, and how to make a first date, or a fiftieth, go well.

Some articles are aimed at younger men, some at older ones, and many at both. If you're a 24-year-old who's never told anyone he likes older guys, there's something here for you. If you're a 58-year-old wondering whether anyone still notices you, there's plenty here for you too.

We also publish guides to gay daddy dating in the cities where many of our members live, from New York, Los Angeles and San Francisco to London, Manchester and Brighton, Sydney and Melbourne. They cover the bars where older and younger men actually mix, the neighbourhoods worth knowing and the local quirks that make dating there different.

New articles are added regularly, and the most recent ones always appear first below. If you're new here, a good place to start is our guide to what "daddy" really means in gay culture, followed by the article on why age gaps are so common between gay men. Both give a good sense of what DaddiesBoySquare is about.

Reading is free, and so is creating a profile. When an article makes you think "that's exactly my type", the men it describes are probably online right now.